As the saying goes, ‘there’s no such thing as bad publicity’
and, after appearing in The Daily Mail yesterday, I couldn’t agree more.
Regular readers of my blog will know that I began my writing
journey after my son developed school phobia and I found that I had time on my hands to read and ultimately
fulfil my dream of completing a novel. My
son was crippled by his condition and, at the time, there was very little help
or information - even online. So when
the opportunity to feature in a national newspaper came up, both my son and I
agreed that if it could help just ONE child it would be worth it.
I’ve now had many people contact me through Facebook, Twitter
and via comments on the article saying how relieved they were to read the story
- that they no longer feel alone. And,
always a bonus, my book sales have rocketed and my first book ‘Diary of a Mummy Misfit’ is back to #49 in humour on Kindle. And for those who aren't familiar with my writing, none of my books are related to my experiences with school phobia - I write humorous chicklit, which I don't think came across in the article.
On the downside … people can be so nasty! Some of the comments made by ill-informed
readers astonished me. I don’t mind for
myself, but when they’re spiteful and directed at my son, that’s when I start
to see red! Thankfully, he’s a level
headed boy and has had a good laugh at them - no, he’s no the weak little
weasel who likes trainspotting and hides behind his mother’s apron, as some
readers seemed to think. He’s a tall and feisty
17 year old with a wicked sense of humour and a definite mind of his own. I agree that the photos are very staged and
imply that we are joined at the hip - but that’s the papers for you!
But the truly laughable comments were:
‘So sad when you see
an old mum’ !!!
OK so I’m almost 50!
‘Where was the father
in all this?’ / ‘Another single mother ruins a child’s life’
Did you not read the article? It clearly states that I’m married and my
husband was supportive. Why show
yourself up by commenting on something you haven’t read?
‘Why didn’t she get
him counselling or attempt half days?’
Go back and have another read, love!
‘How convenient that
he developed this problem in time for some publicity for a new book’
Er, excuse me, the book mentioned in the article has been
published for 18 months.
‘How wordy is this
article? Did she have to hit a word
target?’
This was an annoying one as, although the article had my
name at the top, I didn’t write it. This
had worried me from the start but it was the only way the Mail were prepared to
do it. I'd also like to add that I never agreed to the headline, 'Now she wonders if she was devoted or deluded' - this implies that I regret my decision, which I don't.
Then, of course, you have the bullies - the type who would
have made other kid’s lives a misery. The
‘clip round the ear’ / ‘give ‘em a good whacking’ type who have been fortunate enough
to never suffer from feelings of fear or panic. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but, you my friends, can have a bloody good
dose of it and rot. And, as one reader
suggested, God forbid you should ever have to be there for one of your own
loved ones - you wouldn’t have the tools to cope.
Just to set the record straight, I did not mollycoddle my
son when this condition started - I was a hard-hearted, mean mum who screamed,
shouted and lost the plot on several occasions.
I’m not proud of that but we had no idea what we were dealing with at
the time. I helped in the library for a
year (unpaid) and was on the brink of being offered a job there when the owner
of the school decided against employing a mum - so, to all those who implied I
was a lazy middle class cow who was happy to sit in my car and file my nails,
remember newspaper articles never print all the facts.
It’s so easy to judge, isn’t it? We all do it - I’ve been guilty of it in the
past. I can fully accept that there will
be many people who will totally disagree with the way that this problem was
dealt with, but they haven’t lived through it or walked in my shoes. I have no problem with reading people’s
opinions but is there ever any excuse for such vitriol? I wonder if it makes these trolls feel good?
So … would I do it again? Hell yeah!
As long as my son is OK with nutters’ views, then I’m happy and all we’ll
do is focus on the positive comments and hope that we can continue to help
other kids and parents.
And if you are one of those people who go round,
willy-nilly, leaving vile words - stop and think before you type. Or maybe just try getting a life!
